5 Relationships To Avoid Now That Will Be Painful Later

  1. Ourselves.
  2. Others.
  3. The world.
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  1. Relationships that are meant to make you happy. It can be hard to accept that no one can make us happy or sad. We are always responsible for how we feel. If we are in an intimate relationship and are dependent on the other person to make us feel happy, then that’s a strategy for long term pain. It’s the experiences we have with another person that either generate emotions of pleasure or sadness.
  2. Relationships that are dominated by one person. Very rarely can there be a healthy relationship if it is controlled by one person. In a work environment, a manager will never have a great working relationship with a direct report if there isn’t a two-way feedback system in place. Similarly, in a personal relationship, one person should never have all the power. There has to be equality in the relationship.
  3. Relationships dictated by emotional control or manipulation. If a person is always blaming another person in order to show dominance over them, then that is not healthy. Blame can never be justification for being righteous. In such a situation, both parties lose because one person will be constantly looking out for mistakes, while the other person will desperately be trying to avoid making mistakes.
  4. Relationships that are co-dependent. If the choices we make are always dependent on what we think another person will say or do, then that is dangerous. If it goes unaddressed, that will build up resentment, which can often lead to the destruction of relationships. We should never expect someone to do something they do not want to do in order to make us feel better about ourselves.
  5. Relationships that are not built on trust. Trust is one of those things that can take a long time to earn but can be lost very quickly. If a relationship is based on false assumptions, lies or avoidance, then that will only cause pain. Trust is built by willing to be vulnerable, owning up to mistakes and being willing to receive feedback for the betterment of the relationship.

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