5 Things That Will Help if You Feel Unappreciated

What You Can Do to Give Yourself a Boost and Cheer Up

You may feel unappreciated, especially if you believe you’ve done things for others that should be acknowledged.

People like to receive words of encouragement. When you do, you will feel good about yourself and what you are doing.

The Importance of Appreciation

When you feel appreciated, the benefits include:

  • You will have a positive attitude and outlook on life.
  • You will want to continue helping others.
  • You will develop better relationships.
  • You will have increased motivation.
  • You will appreciate others more.

What Causes People to Feel Unappreciated

People usually feel appreciated because:

  • They have done something that is not recognised.
  • They have invested time and energy into something without receiving a reward.
  • Others have criticised something they have done.
  • They have experienced rejection.
  • They don’t know how much more they can do or give to others.

While it is common to feel unappreciated, it’s not helpful to let it affect you and take you away from what you want to do.

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The Downside of Feeling Unappreciated

If you feel unappreciated regularly, the risks include:

  • It can generate additional stress or anxiety.
  • It will reduce your motivation.
  • It can reduce the quality of work you produce.
  • It can cause you to withdraw from others.
  • It can affect your relationships.

5 Things You Can Do if You Feel Unappreciated

Here are five things you can do if you feel unappreciated so you can cheer up and give yourself a boost.

  1. Let go of expectations. You will generate unhealthy emotions when your reality does not match your expectations. If you do something hoping to be acknowledged for it, you are setting yourself for disappointment. If you don’t expect others to behave a certain way, you won’t let them affect your mental and emotional states.
  2. Appreciate yourself more. Instead of waiting for someone to praise you, practice appreciating yourself. If you do something that gets you an outcome you want, acknowledge and reward yourself. Do something fun to cheer yourself.
  3. Focus more on what you can give, not what you can get. If you develop a service mindset, you will do things because they are important to you, not because you want to gain something. While it’s okay to be externally motivated sometimes, it’s more valuable long-term to be internally motivated.
  4. Accept others do not define your self-worth. If someone has not appreciated something you have done, that does not make you unworthy. You define your self-worth. Others are not responsible for how you feel about yourself.
  5. Broaden your perspective and be open-minded. Giving praise or appreciating others doesn’t come easily to everyone. Learn to see things from different perspectives. If someone has not appreciated you for something, it may not be about you. Everyone is going through something at all times in their lives, so let go of any resentment or judgment you may have.

Final Thoughts

If you feel unappreciated, it is usually self-created and is not a pleasant experience. Learn to accept people will take you for granted at times and may not value what you have done.

If you believe you are valuable and doing the best you can, what others think and do should not affect how you view yourself. You deserve to feel appreciated.

Action Step: If you feel unappreciated, change your emotional state. Do something you love so you can give yourself a boost.

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