5 Ways To Be A Trusted Mentor To People Who Are Older Than You

  • An unhealthy or unworkable relationship.
  • High levels of stress for all involved.
  • Delay or failure to achieve objectives in a timely manner.
  • Low morale if it involves working within a team.
  • Declining levels of motivation to take action.
  1. Get to know them on a personal level. A big reason why a person doesn’t trust another person is because they don’t know them well or on a personal level. Naturally trust is built over a period of time, which can be a benefit as it gives us more time to get to know the person we want to mentor. Trust is formed after we know and like another person.
  2. Acknowledge their experiences. As people older than us have a lot more life experience and wisdom, we should look for alignment in what they have done previously and what they would like to do in the present moment or in the future. Sometimes all it takes to get someone onboard is to show empathy and honour them for what they have done in life.
  3. Listen more than you speak. Larry King once said, “I never learned anything when I was speaking.” It is important to be a good listener if we want to be a good mentor. The better a listener we become, the better we will be able to pick up subtle clues and direct conversations to meet specific outcomes.
  4. Own up to your mistakes. A very quick way to lose trust with someone is to try and cover up our mistakes or pass blame onto someone else. Taking personal ownership when things have not gone well or when mistakes have been made, will strengthen a relationship over the long run.
  5. Share how you are feeling. Sometimes it is okay to admit we are uncomfortable or even intimidated by an older person, but the key is to be able to turn it around by asking them to help us through the process. We will find, not only will they appreciate our honesty, they will go out of their way to make the relationship work.

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