5 Ways You Can Validate Your Self-Worth
Why Knowing These Will Change the Relationship You Have with Yourself
As you learn ways you can validate your self-worth, you will understand your value a lot better and what you offer others.
If you don’t know what makes you valuable, you won’t share it with others, which means you won’t build strong relationships.
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What Does It Mean to Validate Your Self-Worth?
Validating your self-worth means truly accepting yourself. This means knowing your strengths and weaknesses and yourself at a deep level.
It’s about knowing how you add value to others, without needing to remind people of what you do or how valuable you are.
When you validate your self-worth, you know you aren’t perfect and don’t need to compare yourself to others.
Why Is It Important to Validate Your Self-Worth?
The benefits of validating your self-worth include:
- You will give yourself permission to take risks and try new things.
- You will have healthier self-esteem.
- You will become happier and more content as you learn to love yourself better.
- You will make better choices.
- You will develop greater self-belief.
- You will have empathy for others because you know no one is perfect.
- You won’t need others to validate you.
- You will not react to criticism easily.
- You will create stronger relationships.
- You understand everyone’s unique, so you won’t compare yourself to others.
The Types of Validation
- External validation. This includes comments and feedback from others, such as compliments, praise, and encouragement. If a person needs external validation to feel good or worthy, they may react to negative comments or feedback, which can cause them to not feel good.
- Internal validation. This is self-validation. This is when a person knows their self-worth is not linked to the opinions of others. They focus on their self-talk, and they rate themselves highly on their self-esteem scale. They know they have a choice to see themselves the way they want to.
The Levels of Validation
The levels of validation include:
- Self-Validation ⏤ which is the practice of accepting yourself without self-criticism or judgment.
- Self-Acceptance ⏤ which is learning to be comfortable with yourself.
- Self-Awareness ⏤ which is noticing your thoughts, emotions, triggers, and motives.
- Self-Compassion ⏤ which is being kind to yourself, especially when you’ve made mistakes.
- Self-Confidence ⏤ which is your ability to figure things out to get the results you want.
- Self-Control ⏤ which is knowing how to manage your emotions, words, and actions.
When you understand the types and levels of validation, you can choose easier ways to validate your self-worth.
5 Ways to Validate Your Self-Worth
Here are five ways you can validate your self-worth, which will help change the relationship you have with yourself.
- Make self-acknowledgement a regular practice. This is about giving yourself credit. Celebrate your wins and give yourself praise for sticking to your habits or for anything positive you’ve done. Make this a daily practice.
- Focus on your wellness and self-care. If you’re not healthy, you won’t feel good about yourself. If you make yourself a priority, you’re telling yourself you are worthy. This will change how you view yourself. Make your health and well-being the most important thing you do every day.
- Talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend. It’s unlikely you’ll constantly criticise your best friend. So why do it to yourself? Talk to yourself in positive terms as much as you can, and also self-assess when you know you could have done better.
- Take responsibility for your happiness and attitude. Happiness is a choice. Your attitude and outlook on life determine your experiences. Even if something does not go as you expect, you can see it from a perspective that will generate positive emotions. No matter what happens, you can choose the meaning you give it.
- Make personal growth the main thing in your life. If you focus on becoming the best version of yourself, you will a healthier relationship with yourself. Have a growth mindset. Learn new things, eliminate unproductive habits, ask for feedback, and avoid negative influences. This will change the relationship you have with yourself.
How Do You Know You’re Validating Your Self-Worth?
Signs that show you’re validating your self-worth include:
- When you receive a compliment, you accept it knowing it won’t change how you view yourself.
- When you receive negative feedback or criticism, you don’t get emotional or react, and can thank the person for caring enough to share it with you.
- You can say no to others without feeling guilty.
- You forgive yourself much faster when you’ve made a mistake.
- Your self-talk improves, and self-criticism decreases dramatically.
The only person who can truly validate your self-worth is you. If you don’t consider yourself worthy, others won’t either.
When you can accept yourself completely, you will feel good about who you are and live a happier, fulfilling life.
Action Step: Take time to self-assess your self-worth. What are the conversations you have with yourself? Are they healthy or destructive? Identify steps you can take to increase your self-worth.
Question: What are other ways you can validate your self-worth?