7 Things You Can Do To Get Back Up When Life Knocks You Down
How to Not Let Life’s Challenges Stop You From Doing What Matters Most to You
One thing certain in life is that we’ll have our share of setbacks and knock downs, which often will test our resolve and mental strength.
Depending on which season of life we’re in, our challenges may be small or big, and how we cope with them will determine how quickly we can get back up.
It has often been said we’ll never be given a challenge we’re not capable of overcoming. Oftentimes, we may have to acquire new knowledge, skills and abilities, however, we all can overcome anything life throws at us.
Sometimes, while we’re in the middle of a challenge, we forget to do the things we know to overcome it, which can:
- Affect our overall well-being.
- Reduce our ability to concentrate on our daily activities.
- Put additional pressure or stress on our relationships.
- Affect how motivated we are to get through each day.
- Prevent us from taking action to create what we want.
Learning how to cope better and get back up quickly is really important if we want to continue making progress towards what matters most to us.
7 Things That Will Help Get You Back Up After Facing a Challenge or Setback
- Pause and reflect on what’s happening. Instead of using mental or physical force to get back up, it’s valuable to just stop and assess what’s been going on for us. Sometimes we get caught up in certain patterns of behaviour without realising it. Asking questions like, “How have I contributed to my current reality?” and “What can I learn from this?” can give us insights into what we’ve been doing.
- Choose to create a new reality. New results always starts with making new choices and decisions. After we’ve reflected on what’s been going on for us, we can shift our focus to what’s important to us. Questions such as, “What do I want for my life right now?” and “What am I willing to do to create that?” are good triggers to shift our focus to what’s important.
- Develop your mental muscles. Even if we overcome a current challenge, we will encounter other challenges in the future. This is why we have to learn to become more resilient and become better at dealing with challenges and change. We can develop our mental muscles by reading inspirational or motivational books, attending training programs or seminars focused on personal growth, and listening to other people’s stories.
- Ask for support. Life is not a solo journey. It’s a collaborative journey. Instead of struggling through a challenge on our own, most times, help is readily available if we’re willing to ask. The hardest part is having the courage to ask for help because sometimes we perceive asking for help as a sign of weakness. Other people can reduce any stress or anguish we’re experiencing and help us get back on track quicker.
- Focus on serving and contributing to others. No matter how difficult things are for us, there are many people who are going through much greater challenges. When we shift our focus on helping others, it puts our problems in perspective, and sometimes we’ll realise that we’re making our problems to be bigger than they really are. When we’re in service, we take the focus off ourselves, which in turn, will help us be in a better frame of mind to overcome our problems.
- Do something that will lighten you up. We often take life too seriously when it’s meant to a fun journey. Allowing ourselves to do fun things to take our attention away from our problems, even if it’s for a short period of time, can reignite our creativity and problem-solving skills. This will help us face our problems with new energy and a different mindset, which can lead us to solutions faster.
- Practice gratitude and appreciation. It’s hard to be sad, depressed or unhappy when we have an attitude of gratitude. This does not mean pretending that we don’t have challenges, it simply means we have the awareness that no matter what’s going on for us, we’ll always have things in our life that are going well. Again, it’s about shifting our focus from our problems to things that are going well and what we want to create instead.
While it’s never pleasant to go through a difficult or challenging period, we can use every experience to grow as a person and become better equipped to deal with other challenges. If we do, we’ll view our challenges with greater awareness and determination to remain on track towards our objectives. If we don’t, we could easily end up in a downward spiral that can cost us mentally, emotionally and physically.
Action Step: If you’re experiencing a major challenge right now, start off by taking a break to reflect on what has been happening. Use the questions in points #1 & #2 above to start shifting your focus to what matters most to you.
Question: What is something else we can do to get back up when we go through challenging times?
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