How to Accept Your Flaws Without Lowering Your Standards
5 Ways to Stay True to Yourself and Feel Good About it
Your ability to accept your flaws without lowering your standards, will allow you to stay true to yourself, without affecting your emotional state.
Everyone has flaws. It’s common to feel you need to change something you perceive as a flaw, to meet other people’s expectations.
If you do, you risk lowering your standards, which can cause you to believe you are not being your true self. Therefore, learning to accept your flaws will make a difference to how you feel about yourself.
The Benefits of Accepting Your Flaws
When you accept your flaws, the benefits include:
- You will give up the need to fit in or impress others.
- You are more likely to practice self-compassion and self-forgiveness.
- You will feel good about who you are.
- You won’t compare yourself to others.
- You will judge or criticise yourself less.
- You won’t be affected by other people’s opinion of you.
- You will attract people who accept you for who you are.
- You will learn to better leverage your flaws.
The Risks of Not Accepting Your Flaws
If you don’t accept your flaws, the risks include:
- You will live your life according to other people’s opinions or expectations of you.
- You will be self-critical.
- You won’t be happy with who you are or who you are becoming.
- You are more likely to do things that aren’t aligned with who you are.
- You will generate self-doubt, which can lower your confidence.
When you accept your flaws, it will take away the need to lower your standards to measure up to what you believe others expect from you.
5 Ways to Accept Your Flaws Without Lowering Your Standards
Your willingness to accept your flaws will require a mindset shift, because you may be conditioned to see them from a negative perspective.
Here are five ways to accept your flaws without lowering your standards, so you can stay true to yourself and feel good about who you are.
- Identify what you believe your flaws are. Self-awareness is key. If you consider something a flaw, know why you have defined it the way. Are there things you cannot do because you have labelled something as flaws?
- View your perceived flaws from a new perspective. There is an opposite to everything. If you consider something a flaw, you can use your perspective to view it differently. You will discover your flaws are often gifts that can help you improve or grow as a person.
- Decide whether it’s important to do something about your flaws. If you see something as a flaw, you will judge or criticise yourself. You can either accept the flaw or do something about it. If you believe it’s important to change it, you can ask for help or learn what you can do to improve.
- Remember your strengths and positive qualities. You also have many strengths and things you do well. If you focus on your positive qualities, you will feel good about yourself. Instead of giving attention to what you don’t like about your flaws, consider how you can turn them into strengths.
- See yourself as a work-in-progress. You do many things better than other people. Similarly, others do things better than you. Seeing yourself as someone who is continually improving will take the pressure off you to be a certain way now.
Final Thoughts
If you believe you have flaws, you can accept them, change them or ignore them. When you learn how to accept your flaws without lowering your standards, you won’t doubt yourself. You won’t question whether you will be accepted the way you are.
If you don’t accept your flaws, you will struggle to be your true self, which means you will live your life according to other people’s expectations. That will not support you in living an authentic, fulfilling life.
Action Step: Reflect on something you consider a flaw. Identify your reasons for labelling it a flaw and whether you want to do something about it. Determine how you can accept it, view it as a strength or change it if you choose to.
Question: What are other ways to accept your flaws without lowering your standards?
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