How to Become More Patient and Decrease Stress
As you become more patient, it will improve your ability to deal with stress and give you more inner peace.
Small things, like waiting in line a lot longer than planned, getting caught in a traffic jam, or waiting for a video to stop buffering before playing, can often trigger people and cause them to behave out of character.
It’s common to feel tense and generate stress when things don’t go as expected. Learning to be more patient will make a big difference to your daily experiences and how you relate to others.
What is Patience?
Wikipedia defines patience as “the ability to endure difficult circumstances such as perseverance in the face of delay; tolerance of provocation without responding in annoyance/anger; or forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one can have before negativity.”
It is your ability to stay calm and composed, without reacting to something happening to or around you. The better you are at this, the better you will manage your emotions.
The Costs of Being Impatient
Being impatient is not a good quality to have. The downside of being impatient includes:
- Feeling frantic and rushed often.
- Not having a good attitude.
- Allowing yourself to get frustrated and stressed easily.
- Not being at your best consistently.
- Not communicating well with others.
As you focus on becoming more patient, you will have a higher level of calmness and inner peace.
The Benefits of Being More Patient
When you become more patient, the benefits you will enjoy include:
- Stronger relationships.
- Being less reactive.
- Better decision-making ability.
- Letting go of things not within your control.
- Not getting frustrated or stressed easily.
5 Things You Can Do to Become More Patient and Decrease Stress
Learning how to become more patient will take practice and commitment. Here are five things you can do to become more patient, which will help decrease stress and give you a greater sense of control.
- Recognise what causes you to be impatient. This is about developing mindfulness. Before you can change your habits, you have to know what causes you to become impatient. The more you understand your triggers, the better you will be placed to deal with them.
- Focus on your breathing. When you feel tense, your breathing is usually shallow or short. If you know you are getting triggered, taking slow and long breaths will help keep you calm. The key is to do it when you feel stressed.
- Identify what you are giving your attention to. If you are impatient, it usually means you are making something important. As you evaluate what’s important, you will realise that what is causing you to be impatient, will not matter a few hours, days or weeks from now.
- Focus on gratitude and appreciation. No matter how irritating something is, there is always something to be grateful for. This is about training yourself to focus on what’s positive. This will cause you to change your attitude by changing what you are focusing on.
- Evaluate your environments. If you know you get triggered easily, there are things in your environments that are not supportive. This can include people, things or conditions. Setting up your environments will help you develop the right attitude and become more patient.
Becoming more patient is a quality that will help you experience more calmness and inner peace in your life. Your ability to stay present, without reacting to events, will make you feel better about yourself and increase your confidence.
If you do not focus on developing patience, you will continue to get triggered by things that don’t matter, which will steal your ability to experience more joy. Learning to become more patient is a valuable gift you can give yourself.
Action Step: Reflect on the last event that caused you to be impatient. What were the real causes? Based on what you come up with, identify what you can do differently next time you are in a similar situation.
Question: What are others things you can do to become more patient and decrease stress?