How to Identify and Change Patterns That Affect Your Success

The Steps You Need to Take to Have Better Relationships and Achieve Your Goals Faster

Neel Raman
7 min readApr 25, 2023

Knowing how to identify and change patterns that affect your success is one of the most important steps you can take to achieve the results you want.

Everyone has patterns that affect their success. Certain patterns are obvious, such as having bad habits, but others are less obvious.

Some people get discouraged easily, others are always busy, and some people just aren’t good at taking action.

To change these patterns, you first need to identify them. Once you do, you can change them so you can become more productive, happier, and achieve success easier and faster.

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What are Patterns?

Patterns are recurring patterns of behaviour that affect your life. They’re often unconscious, which makes them hard to identify and change. Once you recognize them, you can take steps to break those patterns and improve your life.

Examples include:

  • Eating sweets at night before bedtime. This pattern can affect you every day, but you may not realise it until you wake up feeling tired and sluggish. Then you’ll blame yourself for not sleeping well.
  • Spending more time watching television instead of doing something that will add to your life. This pattern can affect you most days, but you’ll never notice it until you catch yourself procrastinating on important tasks.
  • Working long hours and feeling guilty about it. This pattern can cause stress and affect your health and relationships.
  • Overeating regularly. This pattern can decrease your self-confidence if your weight increases.
  • Buying things impulsively. This pattern will not support good financial habits, which will affect your quality of life.

Once you identify and change the patterns holding you back, you will achieve your goals much faster. When you reach those goals, you can reward yourself knowing you have broken free from the patterns that hold you back.

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Why is it Important to Identify and Change Patterns?

Identifying patterns is important because it:

  • Helps you notice what’s holding you back from getting the results you want.
  • Allows you to take control of your life and make positive changes.
  • Gives you the opportunity to break free from negative habits and create new, healthier ones.
  • Helps you reach your goals faster and easier.
  • Increases your self-confidence and motivation.
  • Allows you to become a better version of yourself.

When you identify patterns, you gain insight into what works and what doesn’t work. This knowledge allows you to improve your results.

If you’ve ever tried something and failed miserably, you may not realise why you failed until later. But if you had identified the pattern earlier, you would have known right away.

That’s why identifying patterns is critical to improving your results. Once you identify them, you can adjust your strategy to maximize your results.

What are the Costs of Not Identify and Changing Unhealthy Patterns?

If you do not identify and change unhealthy patterns, the costs include:

  • Decreased productivity. This is because you are stuck in a cycle of repeating the same actions and getting the same results.
  • Lack of motivation. You may find yourself feeling unmotivated to take action because you don’t believe it will make a difference.
  • Increased stress and anxiety. Unhealthy patterns can lead to increased stress and anxiety, which can affect your physical and mental health.
  • Decreased self-confidence. When you don’t get the results you want, it can lead to decreased self-confidence, which can further hinder your progress.
  • Unhealthy relationships. When you have unhealthy patterns, it can affect your relationships, which can hurt your overall well-being.
  • Poor financial habits. Unhealthy patterns can lead to poor financial habits, which can have long-term consequences.
  • Decreased quality of life. Unhealthy patterns can decrease your quality of life, as you are not able to reach your goals and live the life you want.

It’s important to identify and change patterns that are holding you back from achieving success. By doing so, you can take control of your life and achieve the success you want.

5 Steps You Can Take to Identify and Change Patterns Holding You Back

Here are five steps you need to take to identify and change your patterns, so you can create better relationships and achieve your goals faster.

1. Write down where in your life you are not getting the results you want

This can include your finances, health, and relationships, or any other area of your life.

Identifying these areas will help you become aware of what’s not working and where you are holding yourself back from achieving the success you want.

2. Look for common themes and ways you act

Once you’ve identified the areas where you are not getting the results you want, it’s time to look for common themes and patterns. You can do that using self-reflection questions.

Examples of questions you can ask include:

  • What am I doing that is preventing me from achieving what I want in each area?
  • What habits do I have that are hindering my progress?
  • What beliefs do I have about what I can or cannot achieve?

By asking yourself these questions, you can start to identify the patterns holding you back.

3. Identify the root causes of your patterns

This is not always easy to identify, so working with a trained professional, such as a life coach or a counsellor will help.

The root causes usually include:

  • Fear of failure.
  • Lack of self-confidence.
  • Limiting or unhealthy beliefs.
  • Lack of knowledge.

Once you know the root causes of your patterns, you can develop a plan to change them.

4. Create a plan to change your patterns

Once you have identified the root causes of your patterns, create a plan to change them.

This may include setting goals, creating new habits, and challenging your limiting beliefs. It can also include working with an accountability partner or a coach.

Without a plan, you will easily fall back into your old patterns, which means you won’t achieve anything new.

5. Take action and stay consistent

Once you have a plan, it’s time to take action and stay consistent. This means taking small steps every day towards achieving your goals and making the necessary changes in your life.

By taking action and staying consistent, you will create new patterns that will help you achieve success faster and easier.

It’s also important to track your progress so you can see how far you have come and what areas need more work.

Final Thoughts

Identifying and changing patterns that affect your success is essential if you want to live the life you want.

Once you understand those patterns, you can change them. By following these steps, you can identify the patterns holding you back from achieving success.

When you know your patterns, it’s much easier to create a plan for change so you can achieve the success you want.

Action Step: Choose one area that’s not working well or not going the way you would like. Next, identify common themes and root causes. Create a plan to change what’s not working and track your progress as you take action to create the results you want.

Question: What are other ways you can identify and change patterns to achieve the success you want?

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